Relationship Magic That Heals,
Not Controls
For centuries, mystics have known that every intimate bond creates a living entity. This is the forgotten art of relationship alchemy—a practice that heals the energetic atmosphere so love can flow naturally.
For couples/friends/family stuck in painful cycles, the problem often isn't a lack of love. It's an unseen, energetic presence between you that has learned to feed on conflict.
Here is the forgotten art of healing it.
I received an email a few days ago that has stayed with me.
It’s one of those messages that feels heavy just to read.
"We argue about money all the time now. Many nights Georges sleeps on the couch away from me. We try to talk about this problem only to fight more. I have used love spells to help but they don't work or make things worse. I feel like I am losing my family. I am scared."
This came from Angel, one of our students. Her words are so painful because the pattern is so deeply familiar.
Two people who absolutely love each other—or at least, they did—stuck in a loop they can't see. They have one of those late-night talks, the ones full of promises and tears and hope.
For a few days, it's better. Then, the misplaced keys or the wrong tone in a text message triggers the whole damn thing all over again. They're left wondering why they can't just stop.
Angel tried love spells. You know what happened?
Of course you do… It made things worse.
For a long time, I believed that the only tools we had for fixing a relationship were the ones modern psychology gave us: better communication, therapy, setting boundaries.
And let’s be clear, these are very valuable and important skills to develop. We’re not trying to use ‘magical thinking’ to dodge having to do the tough, inner work that is the bedrock of lasting relationships.
But……..when those didn't work, well, I figured the connection was just doomed.
But then I started digging into older traditions. Much older.
And I realized something profound: there’s more to this, more to any deeply connected relationship, than most of us realize.
A Third Presence
Deep emotional bonds form a type of living energetic being…a kind of ‘third presence’.
I know. The idea of a "third presence" in your relationship probably sounds a little strange.
If you’d told me this in my early magical training days, I would have politely nodded while thinking you were completely off your rocker.
It’s a strange thing to wrap your head around, I know.
But a relationship is never just two people. From an energetic perspective, it’s three.
There's you, there's the other person, and then there's the space you create together.
Every intimate connection—and I mean romantic, a deep friendship, even certain family bonds—gives birth to what we call a relationship entity.
If that word ‘entity’ feels a little weird, think of it as a living atmosphere.
A co-creation born from the combined energy and emotions you both share.
This isn't a new-age invention. In fact, once you start looking, you see this truth echoed across centuries of mystical and esoteric thought.
Western occult traditions have a specific word for this: an Egregore. It's a psychic entity created by the collective thoughts, emotions, and will of a group of people. Most often we think of it in terms of a magical order or a nation, but the smallest and most intense "group" there is? Two people in an intimate bond.
It's a kind of cousin to the Tibetan concept of a Tulpa—a being manifested from concentrated thought—though our relationship entities are almost always created unconsciously. We build them without even realizing we're doing it.
Ancient alchemists understood this in their own symbolic language. They spoke of the coniunctio, the sacred marriage of the masculine and feminine, the sun and moon, which when brought together in the vessel of relationship, created a third, entirely new substance.
Even the psychologist Carl Jung, working in a completely different field, observed that a deep relationship becomes a "third thing," a psychic reality with a life of its own that profoundly influences the two individuals within it.
So you see, all these different paths, using their own words, are pointing to the same fundamental truth. The space between you isn't empty.
It’s a living atmosphere. A co-creation born from the combined energy and emotions you both share.
When Passion Gives It Life
When you first fall in love, you’re pouring all that incredible emotional substance into it: passion, late-night talks, laughter, excitement.
That atmosphere becomes charged and vibrant, and it actually amplifies those good feelings right back at you.
It’s a beautiful, self-sustaining cycle.
But here’s the part we have to be so careful with.
This energetic presence doesn't really have a moral compass. It doesn't prefer happiness over anger; it’s like a newborn infant - it just wants to be fed.
It’s sustained by emotional intensity.
And if you go through a rough patch, it learns very quickly that a bitter argument generates a huge amount of potent energy. It develops an appetite for drama, for the intoxicating rush of a fight.
So even after you’ve both talked it out and promised to do better, that entity—the atmosphere between you—is still hungry for what it’s used to eating. It will subtly pull and nudge things back toward conflict.
Maybe this sounds familiar:
That feeling of walking on eggshells. The way a tiny disagreement about who was supposed to take out the trash suddenly blows up into a massive fight, almost like it has a will of its own. You take a break, things feel calm, but that nagging tension just creeps back in.
Many times, that's the entity trying to get fed.
Now, I want to be really clear about something, because this is the most important part: This is not about blaming some invisible force for your problems.
This never absolves anyone from their behavior. You are still responsible for your actions and your words. Always.
But understanding this dynamic can feel like someone finally turning on the lights. It explains why some relationships feel stuck in a loop, almost cursed, even when both people are trying their best.
It reminds me of something I felt a month or so back. I was in the grocery store, just trying to find the good olive oil, and I overheard a couple down in the pasta end of the row. They were in the middle of a fight that clearly started in the car. You know the tone. Her voice was tight and clipped, that "we have been over this a dozen times" sound. He was sighing and looking at his phone.
And I swear, the air around them felt… heavy. Stale. Like the pressure in the air changes right before a storm. I just instinctively moved my cart away.
That’s what it feels like when a relationship entity has been feeding on resentment for a long time. It stops being just a concept. It becomes a presence in the room that you, and even other people, can actually feel.
Why Traditional Love Magic
Goes Tragically Wrong
So if that heavy presence in the room is the real problem, you start to see where most of us, when we turn to magic for help, get it so tragically wrong.
The common approach to love magic is all about force.
It's about casting a spell on the other person.
Trying to bind them, compel them, or plant a feeling of attraction in their head.
And this is like trying to fix a broken dance by casting a spell on only one of the dancers, while completely ignoring the warped, painful music they're both being forced to dance to.
It just doesn't work. Not in any real or lasting way.
For a few reasons.
First, you're ignoring the actual problem. You might manage to influence your partner's feelings for a day or two, but you haven't done a single thing to heal that hungry, resentful atmosphere between you. The relationship entity will just keep pulling you both back into the old, destructive patterns, and your spellwork will crumble.
Second—and this is the part that’s deeply personal for me—it is profoundly unethical. To force your way into someone's inner world without their consent is a violation. I don’t care how you try to spin it. I can tell you from my own experience of being on the receiving end of this kind of magic that it feels exactly as awful as you'd imagine.
People call it a psychic assault. That’s exactly what it feels like. A horrible, creepy feeling you never, ever forget. It's like having a stranger rearrange the furniture in your head while you're sleeping.
And the kicker? It never lasts.
You can’t force a real feeling. You can only create a cheap imitation.
Their deeper self will always, always fight back. It’s like trying to hold a beach ball underwater. Eventually, that thing is going to shoot to the surface, and the splash is usually…explosive. Your relationship probably ends up worse off than when you started.
Because you can’t force a soul to love. You can only bully it for a little while.
This is exactly what happened to Angel. Her love spells couldn't heal the underlying dynamic that had learned to feed on her arguments with Georges. Her magic was like trying to shout loving words into a hurricane. It just added more chaotic energy to an already volatile storm.
The Magic That Actually Works:
Why I'm Finally Teaching This
For me, it’s always been about relationships.
Some people are drawn to the ocean, others to activism. I’m passionate about many things, but I’ve come to realize that everything in my life is nourished by the quality of my connections.
Deep, meaningful intimacy is the soil everything else grows from.
(I guess that’s the Taurus in me coming out.)
Because of this, I had to find a way to practice relationship magic that was kinder, more effective, and didn't involve trying to bend another person's will.
Instead of a hammer, I learned we need to become gardeners.
For years, this was something I kept very private.
My partner, Amaya, and I didn't develop this as a course to sell. We developed it because, for our own family, we had to. Learning to perceive and work with the energetic dynamics between us wasn't an academic exercise; it was essential for our connection to thrive.
But lately, the emails from students and clients have been overwhelming. Story after story of relationships that feel cursed. People who have tried everything—therapy, communication workshops, even other kinds of magic—and are still stuck in the same painful loops.
And then Angel’s email landed in my inbox.
That was the moment. Reading her words, I realized we couldn't keep this to ourselves any longer. It stopped being a choice and started to feel like an ethical responsibility.
So, we decided to take everything we've learned, all the methods we've refined through years of personal practice, and build it into a complete, guided experience. We’re calling it Unbreakable Bonds.
Introducing Unbreakable Bonds:
A Complete System for Ethical Relationship Magic
Unbreakable Bonds is the first systematic training in entity-aware relationship magic. Unlike scattered love spells that work sporadically (if at all), this is a complete practice that addresses the energetic foundation of all intimate connections.
The vision behind this work is simple: Most relationship problems exist because we're only working with two-thirds of the actual dynamic. Traditional therapy focuses on the two people. Love magic tries to influence one person.
But nobody teaches you how to heal the relationship entity itself—the invisible third participant that can either support your love or systematically destroy it.
After years of developing these methods, we've created a step-by-step system that teaches you to work with relationship entities directly.
Not as an abstract concept, but as living energetic beings you can contact, communicate with, and heal.
This isn't relationship advice with a mystical twist. It's practical magic that creates measurable changes in how people treat you, how conflicts resolve, and how love flows between you and others.
It’s not about casting a spell on anyone. It’s about learning to tend to the garden.
A Glimpse Inside the Training...
This is more than a workshop; it’s a complete system for changing the energetic reality of your relationships from the inside out.
Here’s the path we’ll walk together:
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Perceive the Living Entity: Learn to sense the distinct energetic being that is co-created in every intimate bond, and finally understand the "third presence" in the room.
Diagnose the Dynamic: Discover how to tell if a relationship entity has become toxic and is actively working against your happiness. We’ll explore the difference between entities that thrive on passion and those that have become addicted to the junk food of drama.
Understand "Energetic Spikiness": We’ll explore why, after being hurt, our nervous system can create a protective field that unconsciously blocks new love. This is for anyone who feels like they just can’t let someone get close.
Get to the True Root of the Problem: Learn to distinguish between simple communication issues, fundamental incompatibility, and a wounded entity that is replaying old pain.
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Make First Contact: We’ll walk you, step-by-step, through the guided meditation for making direct, safe contact with a relationship entity. Most students are genuinely shocked by how present and responsive these presences feel.
Learn to Listen: You'll learn how to ask questions and receive impressions from an entity to understand what it’s holding onto and why it’s pushing for conflict.
Navigate the Energetic Space: Master the art of distinguishing between your own emotions, the other person's feelings, and the entity's influence—a crucial skill for clear and effective magical work.
Gentle Troubleshooting: For when contact feels fuzzy or confusing. We’ll cover the most common blocks and how to breathe through them with patience.
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Heal the Energetic Scars: Every fight and betrayal leaves a mark. You will learn a powerful technique to find these old wounds within the entity and gently clean them, breaking the cycle of past trauma replaying in your present.
The Alchemy of Affection: This is our complete protocol for working with entities from ended relationships. You’ll learn to heal and release these lingering connections so they stop poisoning your ability to find happiness now.
Clear the Patterns for Good: We’ll guide you through releasing the accumulated energy of resentment, rejection, and abandonment that can make you feel like you’re attracting the same painful situation over and over.
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From Conflict to Connection: Learn the four-week process for gently weaning an entity off a diet of conflict and teaching it to draw strength from appreciation, true intimacy, and shared joy.
Interrupt the Hunger for Drama: You’ll become incredibly skilled at recognizing the subtle ways a hungry entity tries to instigate a fight—and how to lovingly de-escalate it before it begins.
Working with Deeply Wounded Entities: We’ll address how to approach entities that have been damaged by severe trauma, abuse, or addiction, with specific protocols for safety and self-protection.
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For Those Who Can't Feel on Command: This section is dedicated to anyone who finds it hard to access emotions for magical work. We see you, and we have gentle, practical solutions.
Memory Bridges & Stepping Stones: You’ll learn to use non-romantic memories—of being chosen for a team, praised for your work, or feeling safe with a grandparent—as powerful "stepping stones" to generate the feelings of worthiness and desire needed for this work.
Overcoming the Bitterness Shield: We’ll talk about the protective bitterness that can form after years of disappointment, and how to work with it as a defense mechanism, not a personal failing.
Students of Unbreakable Bonds Enjoy…
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✺ The Core Workshop:
The complete 3+ hour workshop recording with Damien and Amaya. Comes with Full PDF transcript.
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✺ Communion of Three Meditation
To safely open the lines of communication with the Relationship Entity
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✺ Healing Historical Wounds Session
For clearing deep-seated relationship trauma.
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✺ Changing the Entity's Diet Practice
To shift the dynamic from conflict to appreciation and healthy connection.
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✺ The Alchemy of Affection Protocol
Our full system for healing from breakups and making space for new love.
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✺ Emergency Entity Intervention Protocol
A quick-start guide for what to do when a conflict suddenly flares up.
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✺ Weekly Entity Hygiene Checklist
Simple practices to keep your connections healthy for the long term.
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✺ Surprise Bonus: Foundational Magic Curriculum
Full access to our Foundational Magic curriculum (perfect if you're new to our work).
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✺ Lifetime Access
Keep everything forever. Return to any lesson anytime you need a refresher or want to deepen your understanding.
Is This Path Right for You?
This work is deep and transformative, but it isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay.
Let’s see if it resonates with where you are right now.
This work will feel like coming home if:
You’ve always sensed there’s more to a connection than what you can see—that there’s an energy, an atmosphere, that has a life of its own.
You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books, learned the communication skills, maybe even gone to therapy… but you feel like you’re still stuck in the same frustrating loop.
You’re looking for a kind of magic that feels like gardening, not warfare. Your goal is to create the conditions for love to flourish, not to control another person.
You’re ready to be gently honest with yourself. This practice involves looking at your own wounds and taking responsibility for your side of the energetic street.
You want to heal the root pattern. You understand that the way you connect with a partner is often linked to your other deep bonds, and you’re ready for a skill that will bring healing to them all.
This work is likely not the right fit, right now, if:
You are in an unsafe situation. Our first priority is your well-being.
This work is not a replacement for professional help in a crisis. If you are in a relationship with active abuse, addiction, or severe untreated mental illness, please seek specialized, professional support first.
This path will be here for you when you are safe.
Your goal is to control someone. This work is a healing tool, not a weapon. If you are looking for a spell to force someone to love you, to come back to you, or to override their free will, this is absolutely not the path for you. We honor the sovereignty of every soul.
You’re not ready to look at your own patterns. This practice requires a willingness to see how we contribute to the dynamic. If you’re convinced the problem is 100% the other person, this approach will likely feel frustrating and ineffective.
You’re looking for an instant fix. This is a practice, not a pill. It creates deep, lasting change precisely because it’s a gentle, consistent effort. This is for the patient gardener, not someone looking for a magic wand.
Will You
Join Us?
If you feel a sense of recognition in these words—if some quiet part of you is saying, “Yes, that’s what it feels like”—then you are not at a crossroads, but at a doorway.
This is the complete path. We have brought together everything you need to stop being a victim of these unseen dynamics and become a conscious, loving gardener of your own connections. The guided meditations, the healing protocols, and the step-by-step framework are all here, waiting for you.
We would be honored to walk it with you.
With care,
Damien Rourke
P.S. If you've made it this far and a part of you is still thinking, "This just sounds too strange," please know that I truly understand. A decade ago, I would have thought the same thing.
But let me offer another way to think about it: you already feel that this is real.
You've felt it when you’ve walked into a room after an argument, and the silence was heavier than shouting. You've felt the difference between a couple that energizes you and one that seems to drain the life force from the air around them. You know, intuitively, why some connections feel blessed and others feel cursed.
That is the entity. That is the living atmosphere.
All we're doing here is handing you the map and the tools to finally work with it consciously.